Hello everyone...
Excuse my language in the title! But I couldn't think of a better word than "crappy" to describe those days when everything seems to go wrong... it's not disastrous kind of wrong, just an "off" kind of wrong!
For those of you who have devoured many spiritual and personal development books and web sites, you will be aware that you do create your own reality! And I know, from personal experience, that sometimes it is very difficult to see how you could create the kind of reality that leads to a "crappy" day. I've often said to myself "who in their right mind would create this reality???"
Well... I know the answer to that! And the answer is me. Yep... it was me! I did! Hmmmmm.
So... what can you do to just change things a little? I am not talking miracle stuff here, I'm just talking about something that may just shift things slightly, to help break the cycle of "crappiness". And who knows... a miracle may surface as a result of this.
Ok... what you do is look for tiny, little things that make you say "how good is that!". And it can be really tiny, small things/events e.g. you are running late for an appointment, you get into your car, turn the radio on and your favourite song is playing -- this is when you say "how good is that!"
Another example that happened to me earlier this week, is I went to the bank expecting I'd have to wait on a large queue because it's Christmas in a couple of days... I arrived at the bank door and there was only one other person on the queue. This was a definite "how good is that!" moment. Again, it wasn't earthshattering material but it was great!
By focusing on those tiny small things that are pleasant e.g. children laughing, someone smiles at you, kind of makes us feel that life isn't so bad after all. And so by focusing on those small little pleasant things, our mindset changes slightly. We then tend not to notice the negative things quite as much.
When you are feeling negative, and you only focus on negative things that are happening, you tend to completely ignore the pleasant and positive things that are happening in your life as well. And the opposite is true -- when you are focusing on all the pleasant, good positive things, the negative things seem to be overlooked (slightly) or fade into the background -- even for a very brief moment.
It is important, not only to notice things that you can say "how good is that!", but you have to label it as well and say it out loud. It is by actually labelling something as pleasant, and saying "how good is that!", that helps shift things for you.
And please note, I do not say "try" to look for tiny things that make you say "how good is that!", I'm actually saying "do" it. There's a big difference between trying to do something, and actually doing something. It is not until you actually do this that you will the benefit!
Trust me... I've had my fair share of "crappy" days, of "crappy" weeks that tend to go on and on and on. But in amongst the "crappiness" there is always something that warrants a "how good is that!". Sometimes I just have to take notice of it.
Let me know what you think... and share your experiences! You can easily do this by clicking on the comment link below. I'd loved to hear from you.
Best wishes
Jeanne
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