Social Confidence: 7 suggestions to feel a million dollars with others

A lack of confidence in social situations can be a huge problem for many people.

A lack of confidence can make meeting and talking with people extremely difficult... sometimes making conversation with someone who has a huge lack of confidence is like drawing teeth without an anaesthetic!  Painful!

Not only is it painful for the person who is trying to converse with someone who lacks confidence but the person who lacks confidence is often in agony!  And I'm talking from experience here!

Our confidence level is influenced by many things... how we feel about our expertise and knowledge, how we feel others perceive us, how comfortable we are with others.

And our confidence is also influenced by how we feel we look to others... how we feel we "shape up" in the eyes of others.

There are many things we can easily, inexpensively, and quickly do to give ourselves a confidence boost when meeting or interacting with others. 

Here are 7 suggestions to look good.  If you look good... you feel good.  If you feel good about your looks, your confidence gets a much needed boost!

• be clean and tidy -- make sure you are fresh e.g. have a shower or a wash to freshen up.  When your skin is clean and fresh you feel so much better.  Often it isn't possible to shower just before being with others e.g. meeting after work.  But you can go to any public restroom and wash your face and hands, touch up your makeup (if you are a woman), reshuffle your clothing e.g. straighten your tie, your shirt, your skirt
• looking good doesn't mean having expensive clothing -- when you are meeting others, take some time choosing what you will wear.  Wear clothes that you feel good in -- word of caution: most of us feel so great and comfortable in daggy trackies but that type of clothing does not do you any favours when you lack confidence with others.  Choose clothing that makes you feel more confident e.g. slightly dressy but still comfortable
• make sure you have tidy footwear -- having appropriate footwear, again it doesn't have to be designer label or the most expensive, as long as it is reasonably clean, helps you feel more confident.  In other words... avoid wearing joggers to a cocktail party for your work!
• make sure your hair is tidy -- just before you are meeting others and being put in a potentially stressful situation, comb your hair.  If you know you have an important social engagement coming up that day make sure your hair is clean -- wash it!
• have a fresh mouth -- remember, when you are with others you will most probably need to talk (cringe) which means people will be within a relatively short distance from your mouth.  A major confidence destroyer is the concern that we have something stuck in our teeth or that our breath smells... Do yourself a favour -- clean your teeth or at least give your mouth a thorough rinse before any social contact!
• smile!  Become aware of your facial expressions... and make yourself smile!   All too often when we lack confidence, we tend to frown, look serious or vague... not good!  Stand in front of the mirror and practise smiling... and remember if your mouth is clean and fresh you won't have the worry of what's between your teeth!
• practice confident posture and walking -- stand up straight, shoulders back, head held high, and don't slouch!  Watch confident people's posture and walk and copy what they do!

Helping yourself to boost your confidence is essential... and there are so many little tricks that will boost your confidence! 

If your confidence needs to be developed and strengthened... you would greatly benefit from this book Unstoppable Confidence... this is a valuable program if your confidence could be improved! 

And let's face it... it applies to most of us!  It certainly has for me over the years... I highly recommend that you look at this book -- you can only benefit from working on building your confidence!

Let me know what you think... click on the comment link below and share your thoughts about confidence particularly your confidence with others.  I'd love to hear from you!

Best wishes

Jeanne

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I run a confidence coaching company and this advice is accurate
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