Goals and Aspirations

Feeling Overloaded?... It's ok to have a break!

Life these days is hectic... whether it's with family or work commitments and responsibilities... maintaining relationships with friends, family and acquaintances... learning new skills... achieving goals... keeping fit... and a million and other things demanding our attention!

It's understandable we can feel overloaded from time to time... even if you have no more demands on you than usual!

Sometimes overloaded feelings happen because of the demands placed upon us over an extended period of time... sometimes overloaded feelings occur because we are not feeling well, we are tired... or perhaps they occur because our body and brain is telling us in no uncertain terms, we just need a break.

Taking a break from daily routines is essential from time to time.

Do you take adequate breaks??  Do you give yourself permission to say "no, I can't do this at the moment"... do you allow yourself not to perform at the level you usually perform at??...

It's imperative to become aware you are beginning to feel overloaded... and it's imperative that you do something about it before it takes hold completely.

Talking from experience, both professionally and personally (yeah, I've experienced it often throughout my life) prolonging the feelings of overload is detrimental to your health and state of mind.

Here are a few suggestions to help your overloaded feelings:

• walk outside and get some fresh air
• go get a drink of water -- sometimes we allow ourselves to become dehydrated which can increase the feelings of overload
• give yourself permission to take 10 minutes off and do something you enjoy
• have an early night
• write out how you're feeling and what's happening
• get some physical exercise -- sometimes when we work mostly in our heads, we need a physical outlet

• plan to take a holiday -- if you are at work, arrange to take some days off.  This may not be able to be done immediately, but get the ball rolling in terms of booking time off

• talk to someone -- find someone e.g. a close friend or perhaps a counsellor, therapist, Dr you can get support from

Avoid allowing overload to become a way of how you generally feel... overload is an indication something is not balanced in your life.  Take steps to eliminate overload from your life and if you can't do that, take steps to give yourself a break from it for a little while.

What do you do when you are overloaded?  How do you cope with overload??  I'd be interested to hear your techniques... how about clicking on the comment link below and sharing them with us.

Warmly
Jeanne

Achieving Your Goals?? -- What's Stopping You?

In an earlier post, Your Goals -- Countdown to the End of 2008!, I discussed how the final quarter of the year is a great opportunity to revisit your goals and re-energise your efforts to achieve them.

When we set goals, our enthusiasm and motivation to achieve them is generally high... and often dwindles after a period of time for lots of different reasons.

When we don't achieve our goals we need to look at why we don't... if you are serious about achieving your goals now or in the future, you have to become aware of what is stopping you from achieving them!

Some common reasons for not achieving goals include:

• continuous distractions of daily living... responsibilities, commitments, crises both at home and in the workplace
• it's all too difficult
• not knowing where to get started
• procrastination -- just not doing it!
• lack of belief you will actually achieve this goal -- you set this goal before and didn't achieve it
• the goal you set no longer has any importance for you
• people around you are not supportive, and in fact don't believe you will achieve it

 Look at the goal you've set... the one you haven't achieved... the one you have let go... and ask yourself: "what is really stopping me from achieving this goal?"

Seriously ask yourself "What Is Stopping Me from Achieving This Goal??  "...

Keep asking yourself this question until you know what is truly stopping you from achieving your goals... and write down every reason!

What ever reasons you have for not achieving your goal... what ever is stopping you from achieving your goal... you can do something about it.

For every reason that stops you... there is often a very easy solution!

Let me know what  is stopping you from achieving your goals... click on the comment link below and share your thoughts and your blocks!  Others will greatly benefit from your thoughts.

Warmly
Jeanne

Inspiration and Motivation -- We All Need It Sometimes!

We all need inspiration and motivation at times... we all need something to make us think about what we are doing, where we're going and why we're doing it!

And sometimes we need to be reminded about our potential and ability...

I came across this 6 minute video from Enzo Mucci, a UK Life Coach.  He highlights many experiences people have... for example, living in a world where there is a fine line between happiness and misery, where we can be surrounded by people and yet feel totally alone and have no one to turn to, where we can do the same things each day and still remain unfulfilled.

Mucci  reminds us to not let a day go by without being thankful for absolutely everything in our life... a grateful person will always be truly rich.  And by giving to others our happiness will reach new heights and we will have more love and more purpose.

Mucci encourages us to constantly improve our mind and body... by doing so we will have enough power to get anything we want.

Mucci concludes by reminding us the world is one big playground... and it's playtime!

How motivating is that!

Take a look at the video... it truly is inspiring and motivating!:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dCgYXAJOvkk

Let me know what you think about the sentiments expressed in the video... click on the comment link below and share your thoughts... it's always good to hear from you!

Warmly
Jeanne

PS have you ever wondered what the secrets are to achieving Life Changing Goals?  I invite you to participate in the "The Inside Secrets of How to Achieve Life Changing Goals... Revealed!"  Ecourse where you'll discover what the secrets are and you will be shown how to apply them in your own life so you will achieve any goal you desire

Your Goals -- Countdown to the End of 2008!

We are now entering the final quarter of the year... scary thought I know!

It is only 100 days before the end of the year... before the finish of 2008.

It's a great chance to take a look at where you are in terms of your goals for this year.

Cast your mind back to the beginning of the year... do you remember the goals you set?  Do you remember thinking or saying or even writing out what you had planned to do this year... perhaps it was lose weight and get fit (by far the most common goal set at the beginning of the year, any year!), get out of debt, perhaps your goal was to get a job or a better job... change your car, go on holiday... develop better time management skills... perhaps give up smoking... start renovating the house, or maybe even finish renovating the house... maybe to get your book written... or do something for you!

Whatever your goal/s is... how are you going with it????

Some people get to this time of year, not achieved or done anything they had planned to... and decide to ride the year through and start again next year!

But for many of these people... this happens year in and year out.

My belief is, the final quarter of the year is a great opportunity to get the momentum happening again -- to get motivated -- to dust off those goals and plans made earlier in the year which had been abandoned or forgotten about... bring them out and give them an airing!

It is natural that life events during the year take us away from what we want to achieve... but it doesn't mean we have to let go of our goals.

So use this final 100 days of the year to inject energy and motivation into achieving your goals. 

The least you can do is revisit your goals to see if they are what you want to achieve and bring into your life... and if they are, start taking action on them right now.

Get the ball rolling in the final 100 days of this year.

Truly... it's not too late.  In fact, it is never too late to start taking action on your goals right now!

My two major goals remaining for this year are to get the makeover of my website completed and also write another book.

What do you want to achieve in the next 100 days of 2008??  Click on the comment link below and let me know... it's always good to hear from you!

Warmly
Jeanne

Life Little Lessons -- inspiration in a video!

I was searching for something inspiring to mark the beginning of the weekend!

Sometimes we all need a little inspiration... light relief... by the end of the week!  And how!

And this is what I found... it's easy to watch and listen to... and I hope you enjoy it!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4-YDPtOc_zc&feature=related

Take a look and let me know what you think... click on the comment link below and share your thoughts.

Warmly
Jeanne

Potential and Possibilities -- Are You Using Yours???

We all have potential... sometimes we lose sight of what our potential is.  We get caught up in the difficulties of our lives and the problems we encounter.  We not only lose sight of our potential, but we fail to see the possibilities available to us.

Sometimes we need to be reminded of the depths of possibilities.  We need to be reminded that everybody, no matter what their circumstances are, can achieve a fulfilling life... if they choose to do so.

In this 7 minute video be inspired by Patrick Henry Hughes who doesn't focus on his limitations which many of us would.  Instead he chooses to focus on his abilities and gifts... and sharing them with the world he in turn inspires others to do the same.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-qTiYA1WiY8&eurl=http://theselfimprovementsite.com/humanspirit.php

"Patrick Hughes plays so we might hear the music of opportunity and the sound of potential"...

I hope you will be as inspired and moved by this video as I was!

Click on the comment link below and share your thoughts... it's always good to hear from you.

Warmly
Jeanne

When Everything Seems to Be Going Wrong -- 5 tips to break the cycle!

Have you ever had one of those days where everything seems to be going wrong.  From the moment you wake it seems to be an uphill battle until the moment you fall exhausted into bed... and then you can't sleep!

I'm not talking huge major disasters... I'm talking about every day niggles which prevent the day from progressing smoothly and harmoniously... getting through the day seems to be hard work!  e.g. the alarm doesn't go off and you sleep in, there's no milk left for coffee, traffic lights are against you on your way somewhere, it's raining and you forgot to take your umbrella, you've spent a couple of hours working on the computer and suddenly have a power failure (you haven't saved your work), you seem to be clumsy and dropping everthing, and so on and so on!

Yeah... we all have those days I know... so here are 5 tips to help break the cycle and start moving your energy in the right direction:

1) stop what you're doing and take breath -- by stopping what we're doing and becoming conscious of our breathing shifts our focus.  Often when we are stressed we don't breathe deeply enough.  For a couple of minutes concentrate on your breathing -- breathe in and out deeply.

2) become aware of what you are thinking -- our thoughts create our experience.  Most times we are thinking about what is going wrong, what is so difficult, what needs to be done... spend a little while becoming aware of your thoughts and replace negative thoughts with more positive ones.  Think back to a time when everything was running smoothly, you were happy, feeling positive and strong.

3) positive self talk -- say over and over "this will pass", " I'm experiencing a happy, abundant and fulfilled day", "my energy is flowing freely".  Positive self talk shifts your focus, increases your vibration, and aligns your energy with what you desire in your life. 

4) express gratitude -- even on bad days, when everything is an uphill battle, there are numerous things happening to or around us which are good, make us smile, feel comfortable e.g. you got to work on time, coffee was just how you like it, you are warm and dry, someone smiled at you, the flowers look lovely, someone gives you a complement.  Become aware of what is going right around you and express gratitude for it.   

5) sing or hum a song -- sing something upbeat and happy, something you enjoy and makes you feel positive.  This helps create a more positive energy within you.

If you follow these 5 easy-to-use tips you will get through the day more easily and positively.  Each of these tips shifts your focus from what isn't working in your day and allows your energy to focus on what is working.

What techniques do you use on days when everything is going wrong?  Click on the comment link below and share your tips... it would be great to hear them!

Warmly
Jeanne

Relationships, Love and Feeling Complete -- or not?

Relationships form an important part of our life... we have relationships with our parents, siblings, friends, family, people we hardly know, work colleagues. 

Love relationships are something most of us have experienced at some time in our life.  Some love relationships are truly fulfilling and long-lasting whereas others are not.

Often when we feel lack in our life, when we don't feel whole and complete, we look to forming attachments with others, especially to one person to help us fulfil that lack.

We may fall in love, and the "other" person may feel the same way about us.  We feel whole and complete.  We feel happy.

After a while of being together... it is possible the "other" person no longer makes us feel whole, complete and happy.  Their behaviour irritates us, they no longer say or do the things we feel we need to make us whole, and this "other" person no longer makes us feel happy. 

Our feelings of lack return... and the relationship crumbles. Problems emerge and they seem insurmountable.  And we are left alone -- perhaps not physically but certainly emotionally.  The relationship becomes empty and more often than not ends.

A major problem in relationships is when we look to the "other" to complete us, to make us feel whole and to make us feel happy.  This tends to create a one-sided relationship... it places a huge responsibility on the "other" person... a responsibility difficult, if not impossible, to live up to permanently.

We cannot depend on anyone to make us feel whole... to make us feel happy and complete.  We need to find that within ourselves.  We need to feel complete and whole and happy within ourselves. 

When people come together, not needing, or depending on and demanding the "other" to get rid of the lack they feel within them, to make them feel whole, complete and happy, the relationship is equal.  The bond between them can grow and flourish... and develop into something powerful and beautiful.  And the relationship will endure

Listen to this 10 minute video of Eckart Tolle's views on love and relationships...
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iicGczvp5HQ&feature=related

Do you agree we need to fulfil our own feelings of lack rather than relying on someone else to provide it for us?... Click on the common link below and share your thoughts... it would be great to hear from you!

Warmly
Jeanne

 

What Matters To You? -- Do You Really Know??

I came across this quote early this morning... it's one I keep coming back to it and thinking about and I thought I would share it with you:

In order to do what really matters to you, you have to, first of all, know what really matters to you.

                                                  ... Dr Edwards Hallowell

Many of us would say yes we know what matters to us... perhaps it includes our family and friends, our health, the work we do, the house we live in, security... and a million and one other things!

It's important to stop and think, at a deeper level, about what's important to us... what really matters in our life.  And then look at what we are doing and see if our actions, our thoughts and our beliefs are aligned with what matters to us.

For example, if your health is one of the things which matters to you (and quite frankly it should be) do your actions reflect that?  Do your actions support your health? 

If health matters to you, do you have a healthy lifestyle?  Do you eat properly... do you get adequate sleep?  Do you skip meals?  Do you smoke??

If family and friends matter to you, do you interact with them in a way which supports the fact that they matter to you... in other words, do you communicate with your family and friends in an easy, open and loving way?  Do you see them often?  Do you enjoy being with them...?

On the the flip side... ask yourself  "Am I doing what really matters to me?"

For example, does the work you do matter to you?  Do the activities you are involved with e.g. sport, community groups... matter to you?

By asking yourself what matters to you... you are taking the first step in deciding what needs to be changed in your life. 

We all need to do this from time to time... we all need to ask ourselves what really does matter to us!

Click on the comment link below and share your thoughts about what matters to you... and if what you are doing actually matters!  I'd be interested to hear your thoughts and comments...

Remember if you could benefit from  guidance and support in in bringing about change in your life and achieving the goals you desire, I invite you to join my 4 Week E-Mail Mentoring Program...

Warmly
Jeanne

Transforming Your Life -- Start with Gratitude!

Many people I know want to change their life, or at least aspects of their life.  They've got to a point where they are feeling unfulfilled, empty, restless... the feeling there's got to be more to life than what they are currently experiencing.

Sometimes we don't know where to start to make changes...

If you want to transform your life... a powerful way to begin is with gratitude.

The Law of Attraction begins and ends with gratitude... the more grateful you are the more good things will come into your life.

Often we focus on what is going wrong, what is not happening, what's broken, what's unfulfilling, what's unhealthy, what's lacking in our life... and the Law of Attraction brings more of what you are focusing on into your life.  Simple as that!

What you focus on persists... the Law of Attraction works every second of every day, so why not use the Law of Attraction to bring into your life more of those things you desire.

Be truly grateful for what you have... for what you're experiencing... for what's in your life.  The more grateful you are for what you have, the more you focus on what is working and what is good in your life, the more of these things you will bring in to your life.

It will not fail to work -- the Law of Attraction never fails.

Therefore, spend more time deliberately focusing on expressing gratitude for what is good in your life.  It doesn't have to be a long time, just a few minutes each day is enough to shift your focus from what is lacking to what is good.

Suggestion: for the next 30 days deliberately spend time during the day expressing gratitude.  As you are laying in bed before getting up, or soon after getting up, think about 10 things you are grateful for... begin your day with gratitude.

For example: "I'm grateful for a good night sleep", "I'm grateful having a bed to sleep in".  Include your family, your work, your friends, the flowers you saw, the opportunities you can take up today... comfortable clothing, a hot cup of coffee, the music you are listening to... whatever is going really well in your life at that moment... express gratitude for it!

Be grateful you have the opportunity to begin to create the changes in your life you desire... if you have a job you don't enjoy, be grateful for the opportunity to work on resolving what you don't like in your job or having the opportunity of looking for work elsewhere.

If there is something in your life you don't like... be grateful for the opportunity to create a change.  If, for example, you have problems within your family be grateful for the opportunities to work on them, to do something about them, to resolve them one way or the other.

It's important to express your gratitude often... express gratitude while you're driving, while you're showering, walking, getting dressed, sitting on the bus, driving your car... doing chores... whenever and wherever express your gratitude!

For the last 2 1/2 years I've kept a Gratitude Journal.... one of the first things I do in the morning is write at least 10 different things I'm grateful for.  It doesn't make things happen in my life, that's up to me to do, but what it does it puts me in a different frame of mind, it shifts my focus from potentially negative thoughts to more positive thoughts.  And it does make a difference!

Give it a go... and let me know how it is for you.  Click on the comment link below and share your thoughts about gratitude.  It's always great hearing from you.

Warmly
Jeanne